Self assurance feels like a positive and supportive relationship to self–an ongoing dialogue with oneself that is loving, compassionate, and encouraging.

Self love is healing and rejuvenating, while self criticism is self-defeating.

We must welcome our pain in order to heal it. And we must be willing to face it with curiosity and acceptance.

If we feel like we don’t have worth, we will resonate with others who don’t know our worth. We will continue to accept it, in effect saying “yes” to it. Confirming for ourselves that we are worthless and reinforcing that energy pattern (that thought pattern).

The only thing that can restructure those patterns is a different frequency. Heart energy overpowers mind energy. That’s why the more love you let in, the more compassionate and open you become. You increase your overall frequency. That’s why healing those damaging thoughts requires overpowering them with love. And why love for ourselves deepens our capacity for love of others. And why choosing love helps us overcome fear, or other limiting beliefs like fear.

Loving feels like opening. It feels best for us to be fully open but that doesn’t mean it’s always safe. Not until we are able to feel completely safe and open all the time. No attachments. No thoughts. An empty mind. It’s not about clearing your mind of thoughts by trying not to think. It’s about contemplation, reflection, and self healing. Learn your thoughts and enlighten them by choosing love instead. Accept and love yourself. Purify your mind. Raise your vibration.

We become energized when people give us their time because they are lending us their energy, their focus, their attention. If I can receive and reciprocate, those are the moments when I feel most energized, as opposed to spending a lot of time thinking about a problem or spending time thinking of something outside of myself without the opportunity for reciprocity. Then I’m just sending my energy away. And if I’m thinking negatively about myself, then I’m actively depleting my own energy. Judging and shaming ourselves zaps us of our energy. If we were all at a place of presence and sending out loving energy through ourselves (sending loving energy to self first) and receiving it openly, then we would all feel energized, seemingly effortlessly. Loving self and loving others both, through positive attention. We wouldn’t experience sensations of scarcity because we would feel full.

Judgement reinforces a black and white notion of emotion. If you aren’t open to exploring your feelings and asking where they’re coming from and why you’re having them, then you aren’t able to develop compassion and empathy that sparks expansion (or the ability to inhabit the bigger picture). You just get stuck in feeling threatened and feeling hateful and acting on that. That’s why judgement is ultimately destructive, because it’s a slippery slope. Judgement is non-optimal. Judgement does force ignorant action (uninformed by the ability to inhabit other perspectives), generally, which is antithetical to conscious and intentional action. Whereas discernment allows us to assess and decide how we choose to respond to a stimulus. This is a healthier expression of preference, which is a natural part of the human experience.

The key to being wildly successful is listening to your inner voice and trusting it.

When we don’t trust ourselves, we let our head override our gut and we pay for it dearly. Listen to your heart—not like you’re trying to divine something from outside. This comes from inside. It’s provided for you, by you. 

Your duality is your cosmic spirit embodied in a physical form. Being able to align your chakras brings your body and soul in alignment so the two are more connected. It is possible to achieve a permanent connection, but it takes time as one gets closer and closer to complete unity with each experience/alignment. When things happen to trigger patterned behavior, we slip further and further away from alignment. Some chakras will align to compensate for others. 

Karma is when you are so far out of alignment that you attract energy to you to push you back into alignment. Positive karma is when you are aligned and attract energy to maintain alignment. It’s a push/pull scenario. Being honest about what you want (facing it) and pulling it toward you is how you build good karma. Bad karma occurs when you rebel and push something away from you—you don’t learn anything to change your patterning…and it comes back (attracted again) with greater intensity.

Our concept of truth has to be elastic enough for us to be able to accept even just the hint of a different reality, or a different dimension to reality we aren’t experiencing. We have been so solidified in black-and-white thinking and other rigid patterns of thought that follow a survival mindset, like “Will this help me live? Yes” or “Will this kill me? No”.

The chaos happening on the planet right now is shaking our perceptions, and shaking us loose of the rigid commitment to there being a capital T truth (objective truth/objective reality). So here we are. In this strange place where we’re taking our first steps away from the comfort of (false) certainty toward the unknown. 

A lot of small changes constitute a big change (evolution). We are dealing with change more rapidly on a small scale than we ever have before and it just flows upward. So the larger changes of the whole system are happening more rapidly, and we still struggle with change–accepting difference, accepting our new realities. That’s what change is: reframing reality. Change is reframing reality. Because the effort of that reframe has creative power, it has creative energy. 

Your path is actually the connection you have to your intuition. The more closely you’re connected to your intuition, (the more self-awareness you have and self-knowledge), the closer you are to your path. However, the strange misconception of this is that at any point you’re ever not on your path. You’re never not on your path. However, the closer you are to your intuition, the closer you are to traveling your path—it’s a dimensional difference. There is no right way or wrong way, what is is. There is only true to yourself and not. 

If I am able to trust that each moment has inherent meaning, then I can let go and allow my experience to unfold, abandon expectation and allow for each moment to arrive pleasantly, surprisingly in a state of awe, wonderment, curiosity and engagement and total realization that I am not in the driver’s seat, that I never have been, and my life to this point has consisted of a struggle to grab the wheel.

When you are invested in this idea of reality as a constant, you are less able to adapt to change, you are less able to accept that your perception of reality is not actual, you become more deeply embedded in your own perception of what is true. It’s problematic because you begin to accept that as a capital T Truth. When you are situated in judgement of others, you are deepening your purchase in your own concept of what Truth is and what that reality is, and so you are less agile in your ability to adapt to new information, to respond and allow for others to influence you and provide you with more pieces to the puzzle of reality.

When we ingratiate ourselves in our own siloes or echo chambers (surrounding ourselves with people who think similarly to us—who share the same perception of reality) we are doing ourselves a tremendous disservice because we are just more fully digging into that perception and disallowing the possibility for anything to be different. The Truth is chaos and constant change. The Truth is there is no capital T. Everything is a variant and we have to have comfort in holding all of those things together in order to fully expand (grow).